Helping Children Feel Secure in an Uncertain World
Posted: April 25, 2020
The news can be full of scary stories and information, especially for children. Our current situation has brought about even more concern for everyone in the world. If adults are feeling panicked, imagine how children must be feeling. And no matter the age, children can be emotionally affected by the news and begin feeling anxious about what they are hearing. For this reason, it’s important for parents to spend time connecting with their children and implementing ways that help them feel secure.
And, of course, during this worldwide turmoil, parents may also feel unsure and struggle with what to say to their children. But this is the time when parents should take the opportunity to help members in the family reconnect with each other, which will help everyone feel more secure. Having honest discussions about what everyone is feeling is vital to processing the information in a healthier way. It’s important that parents have these conversations to help ease fear about our “new normal” and implement strategies that will leave children feeling more assured.
Boredom – An Essential Ingredient for Creativity
Posted: April 25, 2020
Remember when you wished the weekend would last forever? As weeks of the “shelter in place” order have passed, the eagerness for some “time off” has lost its spark. Children’s boredom is growing day by day and will continue, especially as many schools will be ending the school year earlier than normal. The rising monotony of each day brings about an increase in technology use to keep children occupied. What they should be doing, however, is embracing the boredom and allowing their creative juices to flow.
When we are bored, we are more likely to engage in “sensation seeking.” A study in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology states that boredom causes us to look for activities to stimulate the reward centers of the brain. Since using devices increases dopamine, the neural connections for this increase, and our brains crave it more and more. The ability to let our minds wander is diminished and any moment that lacks stimulation makes us uncomfortable. And, unfortunately, our children are learning to satisfy these unpleasant feelings with technology.
Why coaching from the sidelines is a bad thing!
Posted: March 27, 2019
As parents, we want what’s best for our children, and we also want our children to give it their best when they participate in extra-curricular sports and activities. The problem is, we sometimes get caught up in our desire to see our children perform well and we speak up at the wrong times. With that said, I’ve put together some details about how coaching from the sidelines plays a harmful role in our child’s emotional development.
(Please note as it relates to this article, I’m focusing on a martial arts parent because that’s the environment I’m an expert at when it comes to this topic. However, this information is easily related to other sports and activities.)
For starters: your child’s brain is already occupied with so many thoughts. Take a sparring match for example:
Children that Bully.
Posted: August 17, 2017
A friend of mine wrote this and with her permission I am featuring this on my blog. Please read and enjoy. Feel free to contact us at the academy if you have any further questions.
Children that Bully
By Melody Shuman
Punishment vs Discipline
Posted: August 14, 2017
Raising strong willed children are not for the faint of heart. Today's strong willed child is tomorrows CEO. I appreciate you allowing me a moment to process what I want to say. First, congratulations on being the parents of an opinionated child, your job will be challenging but rewarding. To have a daughter that has no fear, the ability to openly express herself, well that is wonderful!!!! To have her be disrespectful, or rude. Not acceptable. I agree. So I thought we would first start with a discussion about discipline -vs-punishment.
See good behavior is a learning process for children, and we are their road map. Children usually behave per their own emotions and impulses. At the same time, being a parent is also a learning process and sometimes we rely on our own emotions and impulses to teach. Usually that means we divert directly to punishments when a child misbehaves, missing a crucial opportunity to teach them. With that said, I am going to break down how to teach good behavior through discipline vs. punishment.